Going through a divorce can be really rough on a person. For some people, a divorce can drain their mental and physical strength. It’s also common for someone to make mistakes that put them in a worse position than before.
Obviously, there are some things that you should and shouldn’t do during a divorce or if you’re planning to get a divorce. And I have a list of things that you should not do when getting a divorce.
Like I already said, getting a divorce can be exhausting and the process can be complicated too. You will spend many hours of your life until the divorce is final. Even then, there are some other things that you should take care of as well.
Now imagine if you’re pregnant during this time. It will complicate a lot of things and influence your decision-making. Many judges have also refused divorce requests from many pregnant women. The reason was that they thought the mother won’t be able to support the child as a single parent.
Relying on electronic copies of your assets
Thinking about your assets during a divorce should be your number one priority. That’s why you should always keep all the records in writing. And I mean absolutely everything. I know that you can safely store your records in digital format, but don’t neglect this step. The judge will ask you to provide proof of your assets in court, therefore you should document everything.
Paper documents stored in a safe place are going to add more security for you. While digital documents are safe, there’s still a chance of someone deleting them or locking you out from accessing them. Record everything in digital format and print them all.
These records include your tax forms, bank account statements, and any financial-related documents you’ve got.
Hiding your assets
Divorce can put you in a difficult position, especially if you’re trying to cheat the system. Don’t try to hide your assets by creating hidden bank accounts, transferring your money somewhere else, selling or buying things, or anything else.
Many people have done this, they tried to cheat the judge, lawyers, and their spouses at the time, and they failed horribly. Sure, some people got away with it, but it’s still a really bad idea. Just follow the procedures and record your assets properly. This way I am sure that everything will be all right for you.
Telling everyone you’re getting a divorce
I know some people who told everyone they know about their getting a divorce. And believe me, it was an awful idea. If too many people know about it, there could be too much information leaking outside. And you certainly don’t want that, not to mention the embarrassment of getting a divorce.
It’s smart to tell only a few people whom you trust about your divorce. It could be your parents, siblings, relatives, or close friends. You can tell them what has been bothering you and what has been going on in your life so far.
Taking advice from others
Now I want to add more from the previous point. While it’s okay to tell people whom you trust about your situation, you shouldn’t take their advice. While they may have good intentions in doing so, not everyone’s situation is the same.
Their divorce experience is based on their personal circumstances and opinions and can’t apply in your situation. Don’t make a mistake by thinking that you must follow their advice. Although, it’s useful to know what others have experienced during their divorce.
Starting a new relationship
This is actually more common than you might think. But, it’s not a good time to start a new relationship during your divorce. Even if you already have one before your divorce, it’d be best to put it on hold for now.
The main reason is that a romantic relationship outside of marriage can make things more complicated. And could make the judge’s opinion of you not favorable. Besides, if you think you’re already having difficulties managing your time during your divorce, your relationship could be a hindrance to you.
Don’t sabotage yourself
A divorce procedure could last for a very long time with both sides fighting fiercely. If you want to stand a chance at winning, try your best to not sabotage yourself. Most people lost their assets, kids, or even pets because they did something that they shouldn’t do.